Nothing lasts forever, and never has forever had such a short life span as in love and relationships. It was probably the French-Swiss film director, Jean-Luc Godard, who said it best: “A story should have a beginning, a middle and an end, but not necessarily in that order.” Like stories, this is also true for … Continue reading In Praise of short-term love
When one is wronged, it is easy to feel angry. Anger robs us of the necessary sobriety of thought we need to grieve - something the end of an intimate relationship may need. Anger hi-jacks us of our faculties of thought required to think clearly and deeply about our loss. “Intimate relationships are perilous because … Continue reading On Affairs
As a species and a society, we have grown to over romanticize and popularize happiness and have exiled all feelings of the contrary to the unpopular and unwanted crevices of human emotion. We strive only to increase those things that make us happy or that bring happiness to us, and at the slightest surfacing of … Continue reading In Praise of Melancholy
Dear Leo, Its me, you. You and I have been on quite a journey together. We have been through it all; side-by-side. We have cried on our knees at 3am, on the shower floor, we have laughed on mountain tops, and smiled at sunrises. You and I, together, always. You have been on quite the … Continue reading An Open Letter to Myself
(This is a poem about the thoughts & feelings that so many suffer with daily.) "He fought so hard", people would say. And he did, he did, until he didn't. Gone, long before his heart stopped beating. In a moment living merely became the passing of time. He was defeated by the long hard struggle of … Continue reading Poem: Already gone.
At WordCamp Cape Town this year, I gave talk on Mental Wellness, the WordPress Community, and You. An unusual talk for a tech conference, but one which needed to be spoken about - and I had no idea how it would go down. Watch on WordPress.tv https://twitter.com/maxbarners/status/774164897810657280 Summary: The main point of this talk was … Continue reading My Talk on Mental Wellness at WordCamp Cape Town 2016
Dear Mothers, Please forgive us children who do not understand That You offer only a helping hand. A hand that has the strength to hold up the sky and we reject you and we make you cry... Please forgive us... I have seen the love of mothers, of all mothers with a love unmatched, unfathomable, … Continue reading Dear Mothers
We talk of love as if it were just one thing: in fact, it’s two very different moves, Loving and Being Loved. You start to grow up when you stop focusing on the latter and get involved with the former. Original: On loving and being loved
A few years ago, I tried to kill myself (Don’t worry, that is far behind me now). Thats the thing about cleaning out and getting organised during a new year, you never know what you’re going to find. Whilst cleaning out my digital notes on Evernote, I found a suicide note I had written many … Continue reading Surviving Suicide: Replying to my own suicide note.